Something that I shared with a friend that needs to be posted as a blog

As part of the stages of grief go, not all of it is logical, there is time where I am just mad that others can get pregnant and have children and not struggle with a relationship that is not ready for a family, nor a body that simply will not perform to par. I could tell you of the people who's comments have hurt me, people who I never told hurt me, but I don't want to focus on the hurt or the insincerity of those who have. Some days I'm just simply more sensitive. But surprisingly grief has taught me many things..and has made me feel aged. Grief is now a part of my life, something I live with on a daily basis. I don't think I could survive without ever knowing my sons, and therefore, grief is bittersweet.

I hope that I did not make anyone think that they personally have hurt me. People have hurt me, those who maybe didn't know the whole situation, or assumed that I was okay with it, or joked about it. And yes, people have. It's the senseless comments people have made: You can have more, think I had a miscarriage, ask when I'm going to stop being so sensitive about it, tell me to move on...it's these comments, among others, that have hurt...and not by anyone in particular...it's not the person, it's the words. I know the person didn't know that would hurt me, therefore I don't tell them when it does. But maybe I should. I'm still pretty weak about it. Which is why I say it on here. No person is to blame..it's all part of the stages of grief and growing.